Thursday, February 28, 2008

New Template

Now that I am getting into the blogging world. I have choosen a more joyful template. Maybe some day I will even have Darcy from 3 Boybarians design me a page.

Originally I was going to blog about aging parents and I will talk about that once in awhile but right now I have some much going on with the aging parents that I need a break from it. I am writing my thoughts so once in a while I will discuss that but now I am going to have fun in the blogging world!


Thursday, February 21, 2008

Number 2

I am going to start by introducing child number 2. The words that describe him are sweet, loving, cuddly, adorable, sensitive, caring and amazing.

  • The definition of his name is Desire Born ~ and that is the truth

How it all began:

We had just gotten back to Denver from a 3 week trip to Europe and Boston to see my parents for Christmas. I told my husband I was so tired and that if I hadn't just traveled across country I would think I might be pregnant. We had a nine month old and there was no way I could be pregnant. Of course I could. I took a test and sure enough baby number 2 was on its way. Due September 21st.

We had lots planned that year we flew from Denver to Hilton Head Island, S.C for a week in March for Easter. Saw the Dr. in between and everything was great. She said that it was safe to travel.

Then we got home and flew to Hawaii and this is were it all began. I was early in the second trimester at this point and I was having lots of cramping every time I picked baby #1 up, got out of a chair, or any kind of up and down motion. I chalked it up to ligaments stretching. My husband took over the carrying of the baby. The trip was great and we came back to Denver. I went for a check up and the Dr said everything still looked great and that it was just probably stretching because at this point the pain had stopped.

I got on a plane to Boston because I was going to spend 2 weeks with my parents before this baby got here. Plus I love Boston in the summer. I got to Boston and over 4th of July weekend we drove to Vermont to see my grandparents because they loved to see the grandchildren and with the new baby on the way I didn't know when we would get there for a visit again. He was about 14 months at this point. Soo cute. I woke up and was not feeling well. I went to get up and it felt like my water broke! All I could think was that this couldn't be happening to me I was only 28 weeks pregnant.

I called for my mother a nurse of 40 years and head of the OB ward for most of it. I couldn't believe this was happening I was 28 weeks pregnant. She dialed 911 and off I went to UVM the local hospital. They discovered that my placenta was tearing but they didn't know how bad. They couldn't determine by the ultra sound. My husband flew in from Denver that morning. After 5 days the bleeding stopped and they said this could happen on and off through the pregnancy but I couldn't fly back to Denver. They really didn't want me to drive back to Worcester, MA but that is were my parents worked and we had to get back. My aunt, my mothers twin got us connected with the best perinatoligist in Worcester and they were waiting my arrival. We left VT on Friday and stopped every 30 mins to go to the bathroom like they said. We were 45 mins from home and I started bleeding again. So back to the hospital I went. 7 days this time.

The bleeding stopped they said that I could go home and be on bed rest. I was home less than 48 hours and started bleeding again. It took over 20 mins to get to the hospital from the time we dialed 911. That was too risky because if you have a total placentia abruption they need less than 8 mins to do a c section to save you and the baby. 45 Days this time!

Now I am in the hospital for the duration of the pregnancy. I was at 34 weeks and the my awesome Dr. scheduled an amniocentesis to check the levels of lung development because at this point that was the last part to develop.

I called my husband who went back to Denver once they stabilized me because he had to work and said that they are doing the amnio on Monday am. He flew in Saturday night and came to see me first thing on Sunday morning. I had gotten up and ate breakfast and I felt that the babies head was in my ribcage. I thought this can't be good. Then my husband walked in and we talked for an hour and the nurse asked if he wanted a wheelchair to take me out to the garden. In the meantime I went to the bathroom and had started bleeding again. At this point God was with us. My Dr. was on call that weekend THANK YOU GOD, because her orders were an emergency c-section the next time I started to bleed and I really didn't want a c-section because I just wanted to get back to Denver soon.

They did an ultrasound immediately to see the position of the baby and of course he was head up. I just started to cry c-section . Although the last 45 days in the hospital I knew that was the plan. I just had a feeling that day that it didn't have to be that way. The Dr.'s put a plan together with us and it worked. With 8 hours I had baby #2. It was an easy delivery. The NICU team was there and after about 1/2 hour of work they said that sometimes it takes babies at 5.5 weeks early time to adjust. They put him in my arms. I looked at the nurse and said this is not normal. Why would they leave this baby with me he can't breathe. She called them back and sure enough they whisked him away. I was nervous and tired. I had the steroids, the stress, the bed rest and it was just not enough. He was born with undeveloped lungs. He was intubated for 8 days. He was only in the NICU 15 days.

Being in the hospital for 45 days I learned a lot and met several people who had babies at 23 weeks and on. It was a long journey meaning my pregnancy and the first year was hard. We had RSV, tubes, weezing, testing for cystic fibrosis which thank goodness it was negative. The stress was crazy but he was so cute. He is #2. He is the happiest 6 year old you will ever meet. He is all boy with a big heart. He naturally strives to be the best.

From the beginning he wanted to see the world that we live in. I learned a lot that year and came to grips with what perfect truly is.

My Journey with #2 We love him ~


Lunar Eclipse.

What a day! If I believed in the stars there must have been something crazy going on last night with the eclipse. We started watching but it was a but cold out side. I believe God is giving me challenges and hopefuly I can handle them as they come.

The morning started off great, got ready for a realtor function. It turned out fabulous. My Chef Nancy cooked tortilla chicken soup for us and it was delicous and the crowd seemed to like it. We had about 30-40 realtors and if I heard WE DONT HAVE ANY BUYERS, one more time I was going to scream. Were is the positive attitude? I left praying that the spring would bring more buyers. I know it will, I just need to get busy. Ask for the sale. Right it is that easy? So they say. HELLO KRISTA.

With the transition in December with my husbands parents moving in it has been difficult to focus on my business. From this day on I am getting back on my game. Yes this market stinks but it is my job. I represent one of the largest builders in the country and he counts on us.

So I get home from my function and my renter on an investment I have decides he cant afford it any more and gives his notice. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH. So I take the kids to Target because it is spring break and we get a few treats because they have been good while we have been busy at work. We had a great

Tuesday evening I was on The Nester this site made my day. I have been looking to do something with my blah bookcases that are painted red like every other bookcase in the state of Georgia. I told my husband that we will be going to Hobby Lobby to find some decorative paper to put on every other shelf for a new look. You can only imagine the look I got of confusion because he knows that I could never come up with an idea like that. Thanks Nester.
Have a great week.

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Tempered - Reasonable

Some may say I am an aggressive Northeastern but I have learned to be reasonable and God has put me to a new challenge. I am trying to be the best I can at this new adventure. My eight year old asked me today why we have to keep telling my 80 year old mother in law that has a rare type of demention the same thing over and over again. I am trying, I want to give her a loving and kind enviroment. I am also trying with my own family to keep life on an even temperment. My 6 year old cried today when he needed to tell me that he got in trouble for the first time this year from his teacher. Broke my heart. HE PINCHED ANOTHER KID! I sometimes have to remind myself what our goal was with this project. Sometimes things like this little quiz can shed light on what you are seeking. Some times I have so many words that I want to put in my blogs but I would be here all night. What was my goal for this project???
Take this quiz and report back to

This is my brain pattern.

Your Brain's Pattern
You have a tempered, reasonable way of thinking.
You tend to take every new idea in, and meld it with your world view.
For you, everything is always changing. Each moment is different.
Your thinking process tends to be very natural - with no beginnings or endings.
What Pattern Is Your Brain?

Very interesting.


Sunday, February 10, 2008


Everytime I think about the number eight I think of my new life. Eight is enough says my husband. I really would have liked to have another baby but instead we were blessed with my mother in law and father in law and a care giver that takes care of all of us.

To think about grocery shopping for eight is just crazy. Crazy Eights

Being in Real Estate I used to think the families that lived together were crazy but here I am the crazy one. I could never imagined this life.

We always feared if we had another baby to grow our family to six we would get twins and have 7 here we are with eight of us. The baby sounds really good right now. At least easier for the moment.

The family sized chicken pack is now one meal instead of two. It is amazing. 36 eggs every week sometimes.

We added 2 additional barstools to our kitchen. The match our kitchen table. The kids get to trade off and have some space so that we are not all on top of each other at the table.

Eight people under one roof is completely amazing to me. I never knew that we had it in us to do. I prayed and prayed. We have been doing great. We still get to play cards on the weekends with our great friends. We made them promise to us that they would still hang out with us with our new addition. They have been a great support. So now when we order pizza for card night it used to be for nine but now it is for 12. WOW!

Eight is enough for us now. I told my father in law that isn't he happy that he doesn't have the 8 degrees in Michigan and is enjoying 58 degrees in Georgia today.

Saturday, February 9, 2008


Today another great day! I am now out with my blog. I guess I will have to add great pictures. I just am here to let people know about my experience with aging parents. I have lost grandparents and have grandparents that are in their 80's but it is different when it is one of your own parents. Ok so I married an older man and who's parents married late in life so alas I have 80 something in laws. We are learning a lot with this transition what we should of done and what needs to be done. At some point in time we will figure this out.
The best thing is that we have great support from friends and family. Last night we had our good friends over and grandpa decided to hang out with us. That's cool! He is looking for interaction. So my mission this week is to get him involved in the community some how. Motivated is my word for him. Get him Motivated. What do you do with an 80 something male that is new to the community? I will let you know as soon as i find out.

Friday, February 8, 2008

We Bloggin Mon'

I just confessed....I've told others before my lover! We Postin Mon'! She ain't mad, she just glad, she my lover...not really, I'm married to Bobby, just a sick inside joke, Mon'.



Saturday, February 2, 2008

New beds

Hello I have been very busy the last 2 weeks. We have decided that for our family that 24 hour care around the clock would be best. I actually was very energized getting 8 hours of sleep for 3 days in a row. WOW.

How do you tell your parents that you have to seperate them because you need the care giver to sleep in the same room as your mother because she has gotten so unstable?

We thought this was going to be difficult. But this morning when Dad woke up he asked why this wasnt an option when they first moved in? We laughed really hard. Mom didnt fuss at all. She asked why I was keeping such a nice bed from her. The bed before now was really nice also.

Well hope the new beds work. We got a tempurpedic ajustable which raised her head and I think that she liked it a lot. We got the care giver Ms. D a posturpedic and Dad got the queen size bed to himself.

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